Can Men and Women be a Bestfriend Even After Marriage.

Salam alaikum brothers & sisters. On this post I'm gonna talk can male and female be a best friend even after marriage. I don't think they can be a friends. HeHe. Yeah, I'm joking before we start.

So let's going straight into a see about this topic. Men and women can be a best friends assumes that they already married appears to be not true!. This is fascinating.

Now, let me be clear. I'm not saying you can't have friends of the opposite sex. And I'm not saying that all your opposite sex. And I'm not saying that all your opposite sex relationships are bad. But what I'm saying is, the unavoidable progression of relationships is something that is far to easily ignored, for how dangerous they can be. If ignored and dismissed for too long, you'll be in a relationship too deep to stop. The good person in you won't want to hurt them (your opposite-sex friend) or your spouse because neither one deserves to be hurt. So it becomes a mess.

Your spouse should be your best friend. Marriages have "ups" and "down". During an "up" season, where everything is bright and dandy, it might be easier to allow a seemingly harmless opposite-sex relationship to exist, even it is frustrates your spouse a little bit. But in the "down" season, that opposite-sex friendship could become a destructive wildfire-and one that is very hard to extinguish. During that "down" season when you start having issues, disagreements, and fights with your wife, conveniently you have a female friend who understands you, will listen, is "always there for you," and is fun and easy to talk to. 

Wait a minute, that sure sounds a lot like the vows once made to a special person called your spouse...

"Marriage is a unique relationship where you choose to throw your decisions under the authority of your words"

You made promise, and now you must make decisions that honor your promise. When you find yourself torn between where you should spend your effort and energy, the answer is likely your spouse. They are your priority, and your energy and effort should first be devoted to them. Even when it's hard, and especially when it's easy.

May Allah swt Mercy & Blessings be upon you all.

Written by,

Norbari'ah bt. Kamaluddin